i dunno, i got the impression that payet was the (no redundancy intended) best snarkfuck frigg ever had.
i cant really see payet or frigg in a monogamous relationship with each other – or anyone else for that matter – but i believe there is a special place reserved for each of them in the other’s heart.
Also, unless you’ve known this person for an awfully long time (and probably not even then) don’t assume that someone you like is your “soul-mate” before your first date.
In fact, don’t assume that someone you’ve not been dating for years is your “soul-mate”
The term soul-mate doesn’t just make a claim about the state of your attraction, but it also makes an implicit claim about theirs. It says that you feel like you couldn’t do better, and *therefore neither can they*. That has to be earned (at the very least – as you might guess, I’m not a fan of the term in general).
And by earned, I mean earned by both of you knowing each other well and feeling the same way, that you can trust you’re speaking for both of you. Not, y’know, by doing nice things. (Although, hey, nice things are nice!)
Given the number of times “grave” and “dust” were used in the letter, I think “soul” was a similar pun on Gravy’s name/occupation rather than an actual declaration of affection.
Sorry… but this reminds me of the “birds & bees” chat we had during my Catholic School days. A Catholic priest, a man who had taken a vow of chastity, spoke to a classroom filled with boys. I got better more reliable information from watching Benny Hill and reading my dad’s National Geographic. #nonmolestedcatholicalterboy
Well, Gravedust has taken a vow of chastity as well, so you’re not too far off.
That said, Gravedust is probably speaking from his heart about what he would respect if someone were trying to win his favor. Whereas the priest was probably simply trying to keep you out of trouble.
Also, his advice is not terrible to begin with. However, it is a bit silly to say at the end to go with your weakness. The opposite is good advice. Go with your strength especially for a first date.
It probably depends on circumstances. If it’s a ‘getting to know you’ first date, then yeah, go with your strength – they won’t know you were playing to your weakness if they don’t know what your strengths are yet. If it’s someone you’ve been friends with and it’s a case of seeing if you can work as more than friends – then going out of your comfort zone can be a significant gesture.
The thing is, if things go well when you’re playing to your/their strengths, you don’t know if you’re really well-matched. But if you step outside of your (and their) comfort zone, things generally won’t go well so easily… and if plans made for something new and unknown go tits up (as well they may), and you’re still both having a good time, that’s a very good sign.
TL/DR: At some point, perhaps not the first date, it’s worth giving things a tiny stress test.
That sounds reasonable; going with your strengths at first so your new (potential) paramour can see you at your best, then later display enough courage to show your weakness & your willingness to strengthen them as well. If nothing else, if your weaknesses seem amusing to your “other,” then at least they’re entertained & maybe even laughing…Which is always a plus when building a relationship.
We knew already that Gravy is willing to help people “of the soil” (as he puts it) to deal with their urges, but I didn’t expected him to also give them solid plowing advice.
You can dance if you want to! You can leave your friends behind. ‘Cause your friends don’t dance, and if they don’t dance, well, they’re no friends of mine. I’m a lonely, narrow-minded man.
The alt text is a horrible person, and needs to be smacked around a bit.
Seconded
Someone should try negging on Frig, if only because it’s been so long since I’ve watched someone explode from a standing start.
Wasn’t the bard she fucked rude as fuck?
i dunno, i got the impression that payet was the (no redundancy intended) best snarkfuck frigg ever had.
i cant really see payet or frigg in a monogamous relationship with each other – or anyone else for that matter – but i believe there is a special place reserved for each of them in the other’s heart.
Also, unless you’ve known this person for an awfully long time (and probably not even then) don’t assume that someone you like is your “soul-mate” before your first date.
In fact, don’t assume that someone you’ve not been dating for years is your “soul-mate”
The term soul-mate doesn’t just make a claim about the state of your attraction, but it also makes an implicit claim about theirs. It says that you feel like you couldn’t do better, and *therefore neither can they*. That has to be earned (at the very least – as you might guess, I’m not a fan of the term in general).
Sorry if that’s a little preachy, and good luck!
And by earned, I mean earned by both of you knowing each other well and feeling the same way, that you can trust you’re speaking for both of you. Not, y’know, by doing nice things. (Although, hey, nice things are nice!)
Given the number of times “grave” and “dust” were used in the letter, I think “soul” was a similar pun on Gravy’s name/occupation rather than an actual declaration of affection.
he really hammered that advice home.
He’s not one to desert those in need.
Uh, so can Gravedust have a regular dating advice segment? Cause that was some gold right there.
I feel that would be a better area of expertise than being a grief counselor.
“If you miss someone who has departed, simply bind them to an arrow and shoot it at a monster.”
That did not go so well last time, as you might recall…
+2
“Ask Auntie Gravy”?
Definitely not using wisdom as a dump stat, that guy.
“still “with” to impress them”
#corrections #nitpicks #wescarebecausewecare
Grammar macht frei.
You stole that!
Am I really the only one to notice the atrocious namedropping in the letter? “Dusting” suit and a “grave” dilemma? COME ON GUISE.
It’s purely a coincidence, I’m sure.
I NOTICED IT TOO. The other oblivious comments are driving me up the wall!
That word between “other” and “comments” is the worst misspelling of “indifferent” I’ve ever seen.
Sorry… but this reminds me of the “birds & bees” chat we had during my Catholic School days. A Catholic priest, a man who had taken a vow of chastity, spoke to a classroom filled with boys. I got better more reliable information from watching Benny Hill and reading my dad’s National Geographic. #nonmolestedcatholicalterboy
Well, Gravedust has taken a vow of chastity as well, so you’re not too far off.
That said, Gravedust is probably speaking from his heart about what he would respect if someone were trying to win his favor. Whereas the priest was probably simply trying to keep you out of trouble.
Also, his advice is not terrible to begin with. However, it is a bit silly to say at the end to go with your weakness. The opposite is good advice. Go with your strength especially for a first date.
It probably depends on circumstances. If it’s a ‘getting to know you’ first date, then yeah, go with your strength – they won’t know you were playing to your weakness if they don’t know what your strengths are yet. If it’s someone you’ve been friends with and it’s a case of seeing if you can work as more than friends – then going out of your comfort zone can be a significant gesture.
The thing is, if things go well when you’re playing to your/their strengths, you don’t know if you’re really well-matched. But if you step outside of your (and their) comfort zone, things generally won’t go well so easily… and if plans made for something new and unknown go tits up (as well they may), and you’re still both having a good time, that’s a very good sign.
TL/DR: At some point, perhaps not the first date, it’s worth giving things a tiny stress test.
That sounds reasonable; going with your strengths at first so your new (potential) paramour can see you at your best, then later display enough courage to show your weakness & your willingness to strengthen them as well. If nothing else, if your weaknesses seem amusing to your “other,” then at least they’re entertained & maybe even laughing…Which is always a plus when building a relationship.
well said, Gravedust.
We knew already that Gravy is willing to help people “of the soil” (as he puts it) to deal with their urges, but I didn’t expected him to also give them solid plowing advice.
oh no he dehent
…and if I can’t do “words” and haven’t the first clue how to dance?
then with the negging thing alt text said?
You can dance if you want to! You can leave your friends behind. ‘Cause your friends don’t dance, and if they don’t dance, well, they’re no friends of mine. I’m a lonely, narrow-minded man.
Typo in 5th panel.
“with” instead of the “wish” that the context suggests.